KFJ16 – The Journey – Marriage

In this episode, I share some thoughts concerning marriage and commitment. My intention is to focus on my personal experiences and the wisdom I have received in my almost thirty years of marriage.

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

—Genesis 2:24

“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”

—Ephesians 5:31

I use quotes and scriptures. Here is one of them.

Marriage is a choice, a decision made daily. I share a quote from “Love is not an emotion; it’s a decision” by Marisa Dowless.

“Love is a choice. It’s a decision that you declare to uphold every day for someone who matters to you.

Our society is feelings-based. We’re constantly being told to act on our emotions. Our feelings and our emotions are ever-changing. They are not permanent, nor do they give us a strong foundation to make good decisions.

It’s about choosing to forgive and let go of some of our expectations because love is a decision, not an emotion. If love was an emotion, when you experience those differences and feel upset, you think it’ll never work. But if you decide that love is a choice, you’ll be able to stand back and realize that differences are okay and that it takes time to adjust.

You find the person who’s worth fighting for, and you decide every day to wake up and love them. Even when they upset you, you forget them and still show love. Even when they disappoint you, you show love.

It’s a constant give and take that comes from deciding that each setback is not a full deal breaker but rather a chance to know and understand your partner better.”

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“A great marriage is not when the perfect couple comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”

— Dave Meurer

I close this episode with a song, “W Sennych Marzeniach,” (In my Dreams). kasiasmusic.com